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What do u think of the idea of having men or woman charged when they emotionally abuse their partner. Men or woman who bully belittle and dominate their partners could be taken to court, but is this domestic abuse and should it be categorised in the same way and does it trivialise brutal cases of physical domestic abuse. emotional abuse must be hell to live with made to feel worthless, losing every bit of your self esteem it has been described as death by paper cuts. the definition of domestic violence is quite clear: if you are not in fear of your life, you are not suffering it. In all other cases, where the aggression takes only an emotional form, or a few coffee cups have been chucked around, women in modern Britain thankfully have the option of finding a lawyer and choosing to separate from their husbands if they wish to do so.
Women in genuine domestic violence situations are prevented from doing so by extreme fear, and so they need help.It sounds like a nice idea but hard to prove.
You already get people abusing the system so it would be very difficult to convict someone because someone else said they made them cry.
The sad fact is if someone is getting phyiscaly abused you may see bruses or evidence of harm, where as if its emotional its one word against another – “house devil, street angel” springs to mind, people can seem to be the nicest people in the world until you see what happens behind closed doors.
If it is emotional abuse then its probably harder to walk away as you have no self esteem and think who would beleive you, and if they suceeded in belittling you that much you’d be convinced that noone would care.I think that information about ALL types of abuse should be made more clear – advise and support should be giving to all and people should be reminded that no matter how bad you think you’ve got it there is always a way out.
If there is a sucessful way to prosecute them it should happen.
Very nice idea but i suspect every embittered man/woman with an axe to grind will be down the police station claiming to have been mentally abused. The courts will fill up and the only people who win will be lawyers.
I can see it now ‘mental abuse lawyers4u’. Im afraid a genuine problem will simply become another money spinning extension for pen-pushers to an already ludicrous compensation culture!
And of course innocent people could end up in a whole heap of trouble on the word of others!
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Blossom… you don’t know what the F**K you are talking about.
I actually believe that physical violence is easier to handle than emotional abuse. You get a beating and then its done, you can maybe hit back if you are strong, your wounds will heal. If someone chips away at your self esteem – and sometimes you don’t even realise that they are doing it until you stop and look back and see what was happening – on a daily basis, constantly checking up on your every move, commenting on things you don’t ask for an opinion on, telling you you are a worthless piece of crap coz you ‘hung the toilet roll on the holder the wrong way’, financially stripping your assets, undermining you… I could continue…
Anyway… if someone is chipping away at you, even the strongest person will weaken eventually. You don’t have to be a silly pathetic little woman or man to be a victim of this.
It’s brainless to judge as you have just judged in your posts, and say that there is a difference. There is NO difference. Abuse is abuse, albeit physical, emotional, financial, sexual… it is Abuse and if its had a profound effect on someones life then it shouldn’t be allowed to go unnoticed.I partially agree with Des. I think there has to be some sort of guidance in play with this.
Sometimes people are too proud, have no where to turn or are afraid to get out of the situation they are in, its ridiculous to imply someone can just up and off at the first sign of being abused. If only life was so simple.
Get Real!
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@blossom‘ wrote:
Melody….I don’t want to seem categorical, but I still stand by my opinion…..sorry.
Abuse has a profound effect on someone only if this someone is already mentally fragile at the time of the abuse, otherwise the effect is none.
Life is simple, we make it complicated.
Utter tosh!
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