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Having been the vicitm of JC gossip (thru actions of my own that i chose to take) i can see why ppl would choose to judge someone,yet they judge without knowing the facts and truth of a situation.
Words on a screen are just that,to understand someone you have to see their reactions and body language or hear and feel the emoion in their voice if u talk to them in person. Words can be taken in the wrong way and people get hurt.
Sometimes i snap and bite back at the gossip and stirrers even though i know i shouldn’t because they judge without actually getting to know me as a person. I came into this chatroom for an escape from a bad situation and there are a very select few ppl who i trust enough to call real friends and those ppl know who they are.
i know what u mean bex, its an awful situation to be in when the whole room seems to have an opinion. In my case wen everyone had an opinion on me about 2 people in room 2 knew the true reasons i didnt bother to explain to the rest there seemed little point i had been judged found guilty so i said nothing i let the other person tell there story of course they left out the bits wen they were at fault and yes i made many mistakes, huge mistakes i wish i could rectify but you cant but you cant fight it so why try. So ur judged on what u type in there and yes i should have been different in chat too i did act stupid but no one sees yr heart which has been ripped out and trampled on no one but a cple saw my tears behind the screen maybe one day i’ll tell me tale of woe but tbh im perfectly happy the judgemental chatters now ignore me i hope theyre happy up there on there moral high ground it must be great to be perfect.
so my point is this yes you may see the words on the screen u think u know the story but there is always 2 sides always its easy to take sides esp if one party is yr friend and they are good at the woe is me thing but what u dont see is the true relationship of the people involved the red flags u see in the other person the way that they treat you out of chat
lol im rambling so ill prob edit this later
It may just be words on a screen but words do have the power to hurt. I know that sometimes a lot of the problem is that with those words you cant put the inflection into them
that you would if you were actually speaking, irony and sarcasm don’t come across on type and sometimes, words can appear snippy even if they weren’t meant to be.I am not sure how i feel about chat anymore or the people who use it. When a certain person decided to try and use the fact i had pm’d them as a way of causing damage, it worked. Despite the fact i actually put in the main room the content of all the pm’s, people still believed the lies told and some of these people were meant to be my friends.
I think its fine that everyone is talking about how no one knows what is really going on in the lives of those we chat with and how we shouldn’t judge, we all do it, some worse than others. There are people in that chatroom who won’t give you the time of day unless you spill absolutly everything about your private life and apprantly even a “private” message is no longer allowed to be private. Lets just be honest, you are judged by your name, if it is a name no one knows you are automatically a “namehider” but arent most of us hiding our name? I certainly wasnt christened barbie, and it is my choice whether i tell you my real name or not and tbh, even though i deleted the majority of my msn list, i didnt even put my real name up there either (shock horror! Let the judging commence!). You are also judged by those you talk to, if the “cool”crowd dont talk to you, lets face it, you are screwed. And OMG! if you talk to the “wrong” people its chat suicide.
Everyone judges in chat, to the point some people have felt forced out of the chatroom because god forbid, they wanted to keep something private because it DOES say at the bottom of the screen NOT to give out personal info, i think that includes my name.
One last thing, it is a free chatroom, you do not pay for your name, WHY is it such a bad thing if somone gets fed up with a name and has a change? And why did Minxy get such a hard time for changing her name about a week after starting to use chat but Cowgirl went through a phase of changing her name every minute but no one said a thing?
i cant say i know alot about the cow minx thing but maybe it is a matter if u are in the in crowd u can get away with it
cow may fall into this category – if ur a kitten u can pee on the carpet if ur a cat u cant
i think minx was questioned by another chatter about details she was unwilling to give up she didnt so of course she is a liar a fraud u know the usual jc bull
i liked minx and a shame she left but i can understand her reasons for going
the in crowd will be in there long after ive gone but tbh i dont wanna b one of em
I guess so Eva, and yeah she was questioned by another chatter, i say questioned, i mean interrogated and they wanted her to produce her PASSPORT just to prove that she was who she said she was, i mean her passport? WTF???
While i liked most of the people in there, i am not, will never be nor want to be in the “incrowd” if that means bullying people because you dont like their chat name or they arent giving out every minute detail of their life
I think its the people who come back with a new name and pretend to be a whole new person in order to play mind games with people thats totally different to a chatter who just changes their name……..some people do it cuz they seem to enjoy playing mind games and creating a false persona………why anyone would wanna treat somebody in that way is toatally beyond me…….the mind boggles! xx
For Lucy:
Agreed Lucy, although probably cause I’m one who changed my name a few times, but always let people know -usually they have Lucy in them so its not that hard to see its me, after you came back and there were two Lucy’s who chatted, I was Lucy Dublin then so a few started to call me Dubbs and it stuck.And For The Rest:
The “in-crowd” who the hell are they?
Its an open chat room for everyone and there is a ignore button for the rooms.If your easly offended by words on a screen and people who dont know you – why are you so obessed if they think your fake?
Let it go … the chat rooms are what you make of it.
What both of you say is right, lucy locket and irish lucy.
But as a free chatroom it is also a very clique chatroom too. Now while i only chat in main these days, i use it more when im bored, or lucy locket it in, it can be really hard sometimes to get people to acknowledge you, and when you do, sometimes it feels like an interrogation.
And Lucylocket, you dont understand the fake personas, to a lot of people chatting is an escape, and you said it yourself, you DON’T know what is going on behind closed doors, and lets face it, not everyone in there is looking to make life long friends, they just want an escape from whatever it is that makes their life miserable, so they invent the person they would like to be. Even myself, while i am one of those pesky name hiders as you call them, and believe me, ive had more than a few names over the last 5 years or so, ive never done it to play games. In fact if you asked me, id tell you. But that was MY right to do so not someone else who took offense to the fact they had never seen my name in chat before. GOD FORBID! And im not talking about you there Lucy, you asked me in pm and i was honest with you.
At the end of the day, it is a chat room, it is meant to be an escape and a bit of fun. And yes the ignore button is there for you to use for those who choose to use it as a way to bully and insult others, oh and also for those who want to get their rocks off with a complete stranger. Never seen the appeal but each to their own.
you’re missing my point barbie by a false persona i mean the people that come here and purposely befriend people and play mind games, thats nothing to do with an escape, its different ppl coming ere with a false persona for an escape as long as they dont try and play mind games with people.
ok, my bad. I have only ever been myself in there, well a slightly less shy version of myself in there. And i have never played mind games. And for what its worth, i haven’t slagged people off behind their backs either.
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