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Excellent posts…..ive learnt a lot actually….so thank you those who have contributed……I do however agree a bit with Sophia on the shouting out loud and labelling….there are lots of people who suffer discrimation….and have to fight and shout loud to get what they are entitled to….or even to live a normal life
I think I have posted before about 2 autistic brothers who went to the same junior school as my youngest…..one of the boys was in his year….and constantly other kids were being told off by the teacher …even getting letters sent home.. my son included for actually what turned out to be all the kids just being kids and the boys being a bit rough in the playground…when the autistic boys cried and told the teacher the others saw them as getting special treatment ….6,7,8 yr olds don’t understand these things and as parents we were never given explanations but just told they are austic
Lots of us parents used to discuss this issue between ourselves and we used to say that if the kids are in mainstream school then they should not be allowed to get away with bad behaviour….it sent out the wrong message to the other kids….Now I know the alternative is to send them to a special school or home school and that isn’t necessarily the best solution either…..mixing with their peers in mainstream school I can see now was probably a milestone for the parents.
My grandson is autistic
my son went to a special school, and in his last years at school he had a special needs teacher.
They didn’t work, and embarrassed him.
Not sayng that is true for everyone.
Ive missed no point luv. Why do you think I got involved in working with A.F.A.S.I.C and children who need extra input ( notice im not saying special needs or labelling anyone) at the end of the day its the survival of the fittest in the human and animal world. I don’t need to come here telling the world I have a child with this condition! will that change what people think of me? nar I don’t think so.
If ur child gets tutted at for having a super market meltdown why worry about what other people think? its them who have the problem. Im not ashamed about what other people think, its their ignorance that worries me. Love ur child for what they are not the condition they have.
Does that make sense?Children don’t have to attend specialist schools , have you not heard of inclusion in main stream schools? Schools today are facing new challenges in meeting the needs of increasingly diverse school populations.
.Ive missed no point luv. Why do you think I got involved in working with A.F.A.S.I.C and children who need extra input ( notice im not saying special needs or labelling anyone) at the end of the day its the survival of the fittest in the human and animal world. I don’t need to come here telling the world I have a child with this condition! will that change what people think of me? nar I don’t think so.
If ur child gets tutted at for having a super market meltdown why worry about what other people think? its them who have the problem. Im not ashamed about what other people think, its their ignorance that worries me. Love ur child for what they are not the condition they have.
Does that make sense?Don’t understand your post I am afraid, no in a civilized society it is not “survival of the fittest”. Support for children and adults with ‘hidden disabilities’ is not an add on, a freebie, a favour, equality comes with a price everyone should embrace and everyone is entitled to.
Countless examples of discrimination out there and disability and equality law consistently being ignored or deliberately not being adhered to.
You last point confuses me most of all, a child and a hidden disability (or any disability) are not two separate identities, it is one identity.
Ive missed no point luv. Why do you think I got involved in working with A.F.A.S.I.C and children who need extra input ( notice im not saying special needs or labelling anyone) at the end of the day its the survival of the fittest in the human and animal world. I don’t need to come here telling the world I have a child with this condition! will that change what people think of me? nar I don’t think so.
If ur child gets tutted at for having a super market meltdown why worry about what other people think? its them who have the problem. Im not ashamed about what other people think, its their ignorance that worries me. Love ur child for what they are not the condition they have.
Does that make sense?I dont care what people think of me or my child it says more about them than it does me if they cant be at the least tolerent and none judgemental
i dont feel the need to come here saying my son has the condition either i was just contributing to the thread and i do love my child for who he is as i love my other children for they are.My Only Grandson is high Functioning Aspergers, but it took him to almost commit suicide due to sensory overload of 500 kids yelling talking all at once etc at a very good academic school. they found him curled up in a ball on a landing of a stairwell in the school.
Getting an aspergers or autistic spectrum child “statemented” is it its self a hard slog for parents, they don’t diagnose lightly. because the spectrum is so wide and varied, for instance they don’t understand facial expressions, or personal space, all sound ( in my grandsons case at least) is magnified to an unbearable volume, he also has hyper mobility with his joints.
Camhs are amazing people I have to say, when I went into a meeting with them and explained my grandsons particular issues in an understandable way (laymans terms) as opposed to psycho-babble and without quoting mental health psychology it made things easier.
I’m Proud to be the grandmother of my Aspergers grandson he is a wonderfully caring gentle young man of 18 who has surpassed everyones expectations with regard to education, and starts a course doing Forensic science this coming September.
one plus side of HFA is that they have this incredible attention to detail, some call it obsessive behaviour? but when applied in the right way they become meticulous in their work and become very high achieversChildren don’t have to attend specialist schools , have you not heard of inclusion in main stream schools? Schools today are facing new challenges in meeting the needs of increasingly diverse school populations.
.that is genuine arrogance from someone who thinks they know it all..
You have no idea of the particular needs my child had, nor his experiences. I wouldn’t want to tell a big know-it-all about them anyway, as I’d be soon feeling the same irritation others are expressing.
Ive missed no point luv. Why do you think I got involved in working with A.F.A.S.I.C and children who need extra input ( notice im not saying special needs or labelling anyone) at the end of the day its the survival of the fittest in the human and animal world. I don’t need to come here telling the world I have a child with this condition! will that change what people think of me? nar I don’t think so.
If ur child gets tutted at for having a super market meltdown why worry about what other people think? its them who have the problem. Im not ashamed about what other people think, its their ignorance that worries me. Love ur child for what they are not the condition they have.
Does that make sense?Sophia…..some parents make a point of letting the world know about their childs disability, wheter it be mental,or physical, to try and educate people. People can be ignorant and judgemental, and if having a car sticker, or wearing a t shirt helps, great. That can only be a good thing surely? Anything that educates people about these things, is a postive thing.
And as for mainstream schools……not all special needs children can cope with it, as Laines post illustrates. They can be overwhelming and terrifying for them. Sometimes they need calm and organsied and routine. Mainstream schools can be chaotic places at the best of times.
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