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been with bf 2 years. Have a son who is six. He goes to his dads on a tuesday and friday but for last 2 months or so has also been staying at dads on a saturday. Last week he said he wanted to come back home on saturday instead of sunday. Of course, i said yes, come home when u want.
BF says its ok as long as its once a month on a saturday (!) even though thats not part of my arrangement with his dad. Had a massive row. Am i right or wrong ????
Is he sleeping there and you don’t want him too? Is that’s the case I’d say your right, because if he lives with you he shouldn’t be sleeping there several nights a week.
Mels love, its down to you and your ex on how much time your little one spends with his dad.
Makes no odds if he lives with you or not, there is no law saying he cant stay at his dad’s on weekends.But this is more to do with your current B/F isnt it?
I think you both need to have a wee sit down and chat about it and let him know that you want to stay to the arrangement that has been in place all the last 2+ years.
I think the key here from all party’s is flexibility. What worked six, twelve, eighteen months ago will not always work. Things change, such as your son getting older, mood changes, feelings of parnters, ex partners etc. All concerned need to make sure that they are putting the needs of your son first. Good luck, it’s never easy x
@mobilecrazy wrote:
Your son should be able to stay with his dad just as much as he stays with you. He wouldn’t stay there if he wasn’t happy, so what’s the problem?
If you read mel’s post you’ll see that’s what she says. It’s not that that’s the problem, it’s her current boyfriend.
Mel for what it’s worth I think you are right, but it sounds like you need to sit down and have a chat with your boyfriend. He has obviously come to appreciate those Saturday nights with just the two of you and wants to keep them. However he needs to understand that the arrangement that has been in place for the last 2 years is the one that stands, and that the last 2 months have been the exception because you, your ex and your son were happy with that. Your son staying at his dad’s on Saturday nights is really down to whether your son wants to stay there and also whether his dad wants him there….unless you and his dad decide to change the existing arrangements of course, but you sound like a caring enough mum that you would include your son in such discussions.
As much as i’d like to advise i aint got a clue what you mean :shock: tis woman speak
lol pete
i let my son decide if he wants to stay where he stays. He does not want to stay at his dads on a saturday anymore. I told him he dont have too. Anyone that thinks i should make him should feck off. If he wants to come home, he will. Simple.
Aha to the point as we men like it and agreed
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