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Sometimes I think I read different posts to everyone else, or maybe I just see the world differently…
I see people who are on the same wavelength exchanging banter, other people see cliques.
I see reasonable responses and differing opinions, other people see trolls and arguments.
I see banter and off-the-cuff comments, other people see b!tchiness.
Am I naive? I like to see the best in everyone, and assume positive intent until proven otherwise. I am genuinely taken aback when anyone suggests I am any of the above. Maybe I should take these slightly rose-tinted glasses off and be like everyone else…but then again….nah, I’ll just carry on being me! :D
Nope, I like me even if not everyone else does :D
Yup, and lucky for me I’m not the only one who does :D
Everyone is judgemental. We try not to be, but ultimately, it’s in our nature. We’re the most judgemental when we’re trying our hardest not to be. If we weren’t judgemental we wouldn’t have to try not being judgemental in the first place.
I think sometimes people forget it’s just a screen. I’m afraid e-gang warfare is so 6 years ago.
Martin has done a great job culling the main clique members last year, but could go a step further by banning cliques permanently like I have done. Any sign of cliquishness on my site and they all get culled. Leaders and sheep alike.
People go on message boards to post topics, ask for advice, and perhaps a bit of light hearted banter. However JC has been, for some years now, in a vicious cycle where one clique’s head gets cut off only for another to grow and the abuse, bullying and gang-mentality just carries on. New users and posters who tread on the clique’s toes being the main victims of said bullying as the clique wants to “put them in their place” , for some personal insecurity reasons, to confirm their own position of authority and seniority on the forums.
Luckily for me you’re all blooming newbies to me so I look down on your clique like I look down on doo doo on my shoe shoe.
I ‘ate cliques I do, now get that bus out on time or I’ll ‘ave you.
Polishes her slightly rose-tinted glasses and carries on sitting on the outside looking in while singing…I’ve got to be me
Whether I’m right or whether I’m wrong
Whether I find a place in this world or never belong
I gotta be me, I’ve gotta be me
What else can I be but what I amI want to live, not merely survive
And I won’t give up this dream
Of life that keeps me alive
I gotta be me, I gotta be me
The dream that I see makes me what I amThat far-away prize, a world of success
Is waiting for me if I heed the call
I won’t settle down, won’t settle for less
As long as there’s a chance that I can have it allI’ll go it alone, that’s how it must be
I can’t be right for somebody else
If I’m not right for me
I gotta be free, I’ve gotta be free
Daring to try, to do it or die
I’ve gotta be meI’ll go it alone, that’s how it must be
I can’t be right for somebody else
If I’m not right for me
I gotta be free, I just gotta be free
Daring to try, to do it or die
I gotta be meAnd therein lies my point…my post was a general observation about how I see things one way and others seem to see things differently, it wasn’t about me per se, it was about the boards in general. I often wonder whether I’m reading the same posts as other people when I read their responses.
I don’t need to defend myself – as a wise friend once said to me, be true to yourself as the only person you HAVE to live with at the end of the day is yourself. As I have already said, I’m happy with me, but since you seem to be taking the opportunity to comment on me, here’s my thoughts on me, the boards, my intent etc.
I don’t think I am cliquey, it’s just sometimes I agree with some people and not others, other times I don’t agree with anyone and think it’s best to keep my thoughts to myself. Unless being in broad agreement with some people most of the time makes you a clique? If so, then guilty as charged, but since the people I agree with keep changing, I must be in a lot of cliques! :lol:
I might have disagreed with people here but I don’t think I have attacked anyone, nastiness really isn’t in my nature. However I do appreciate that sometimes comments may hit a nerve on a particular day or be taken the wrong way, but that is the way of the world, it doesn’t make someone nasty.
I’ve made observations and jokey asides, sometimes with a touch or irony or sarcasm, granted, but I don’t think I’ve been really b!tchy, again b!tchiness really isn’t in my nature. But this is a flat screen, with no facial expressions or tone of voice, just flat words, so again it’s a matter of interpretation.
You will always see what you look for.
If you look for a clique, that’s what you will see.
If you look for nastiness that’s what you will see.
If you look for b!tchiness, that’s what you will see.Conversely if you look for a group of people who generally get on, are on the same wavelength, share a similar sense of humour and banter but sometimes fall out with each other and are big enough to sort it out and move on, then that’s what you will see.
I don’t think there is a clique as such, I think there are just a number of people who seem to be on the same wavelength and share a similar sense of humour, but that doesn’t mean that they have to always be in agreement and “back each other up”. As for nastiness and problems, where? Compared to the old days that everyone seems to want to keep harping back to, this is really a walk in the park.
Nuff said :wink:
Wow that was longer than I thought! I’ll just put my soapbox away for a little while I think!
* peeks over the top of her slightly rose-tinted glasses….then pushes them back up her nose *
What cliques ffs .. some shyte gets typed. Will you dont half talk testicles sometimes.. let the spelling thing drop eh theres a good lad lest it eats you up from the inside no one attacks you, or anyone else because another person does. All the picking and whining lately is done by you… but when you do it it’s banter, let anyone else do it it’s slander. Fact is you find it hard to distinguish between them.
Cliques are a problem when they exclude others completely and gang up on others, no one is doing that on here as far as i can tellYour spelling is still shyte Will.
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