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People in their 40s+ . . .
On reflection, weren’t they all fizz that left you flat?
I mean, life in much richer now, I have a clearer idea of what’s good for me .. . your thoughts / experiences?
im 47 years old. and i love my life now. the twentysomethings were hell for me. young, hartbroken, babies. no sleep. hard graft constantly an alwats broke. then when you did get a bit in front and want a night out, you couldnt get a babysitter for pure gold. ha ha ha nowadays, do as i please, when i please. no kids, got money, happy at work settled and lovin it. young uns think they have it all. ut ralythey dont kow the half of it. :wink:
I’m in my fifties so my twenties were in the 70’s/80’s.
I was a bit aimless in early 20’s but went to got my degree in mid 20’s and settled down.
I think my 20’s were happier than my teens. Or maybe I had my teens a few years late!
I don’t think people or society has changed all that much, we just complain about different things.I think public space has become more hostile, though, and people a bit ruder. I put that down to the legacy of punk, which taught a generation to be that it was OK to gratuitously unpleasant for the sheer hell of it.
I’ve been lucky in that through my adult years I’ve been young for my age and not fuddy duddy (except I gave punk a miss). Only in the last few months have I felt myself starting to slow down emotionally and a voice telling me ‘you’re not young any more’. It’s difficult but it comes to us all.
Im a lot more mellow than I was when I was in my late teens/twenties. I found having children extremely hard and adding up your income/expenditure every week was a hassle too.
Going back to work helped keep me sane as there is only so much baby talk the average young mum can take!
Im so much more chilled out now, and Im sure if I had kids now Id be so much more knowledgeable and calm about the whole thing.
I still love a party/gig, and can always be found at the front of a gig shaking my thang lol, I dont intend to stop that, even when my kids start to beg me to lol.
I like this thread 8) Nice one Nibbs. :wink:
Well I’m 40 years and 2 weeks old :lol: and I would not go back to my 20s for all the tea in China even though I continuously say I want to be aged 22 again.
I have a good job which I enjoy, I go to the coast during the holiday season most weekends to chill out and relax, I am financially sound, I have a lovely home and i have my loved ones around me including my two nephews who i adore and my puddy cats of course :D
I don’t get stressed over things out of my control and now have the wisdom (I hope) to realise which things ARE out of my control and therefore not worth stressing over. I think the only thing I may regret is not having children of my own and now feel I am “over the hill” to have any.
@sharongooner wrote:
. . . I like this thread 8) Nice one Nibbs. :wink:
I’m glad I raised it too. One of the best things of my 20s was to meet some strong older characters who were like role models, they had confidence, focus and contentment and gave me something to aim for . . . and exceed.
Here are some comments from”yahoo answers” where I also posted this question:-
“its just different. I saw a kid around 20 who looked like I used to at that age , sort of anyway, same bushy long hair, probly idealism, just thinking of having morning coffee, etc.
hmmmmmmmmmm
now its like, what to do next, who am I really, thinking of like the next decade , intead of just the next half hour”“loving Life singing going to Church was very exciting”
Comment: youth inspire the older generation to enjoy life and to help the youth – it’s symbiotic.“Looking back on my 20’s (I am in my 40’s) I’ll just say this: experience is something you don’t get until just after you need it- like when you’re in your 20’s.”
” Would I go back? Sure, as long as I could retain the knowledge I have now. Otherwise, forgetaboutit!”
“I am 42, you really make me laugh.
Yes I remember that, crazy me.
Exactly, I laugh at myself.
That’s true, life is much richer, I never knew it will be something like this. I hope everyone in this age have a sunny attitude. Even in the midst of hardships of life, you are cool. I just love this question! breath of fresh air.”“I seem to be in the same place I was in my 20’s – a not so great job, new boyfriend, not a lot of money – just have more fun now as I learned life isn’t all about money, high end jobs and the boyfriend is a considerable upgrade from the one I had 20 years ago. I just go with the flow instead of stressing over things not going right. Also I don’t give a whack about what other people think anymore.”
It seems most people think the same thing… a bit more knowledge, less getting stressy over things we would love to change but cant, acceptance (a big one that), and yes, not worrying too much about too far in the future but enjoying each day.
And not stressing about your bum looking big in anything cos your married and it dont matter anymore, and you dont have to impress ANYBODY :lol:
So 20s for women is a lot about the size of your bum?
@hisnibbs wrote:
So 20s for women is a lot about the size of your bum?
lol, to me it was a lot about keeping up with your peers, fashion wise, size etc… you see them even younger now so hooked on wanting to be skinny and look like whoever. So materialistic.
I think you reach a stage where if you are happy you look happy. Dont know if thats just age related or relationship based.
Wouldnt want to be in my 20s again it means retiment is further away lol
Never botherd what i looked like infact i was one of them who always stood out for being diffrent Dint follow no one never have never will
Iv got more patiants now well did have till me hormones kicked off big time past few weeks
But still drink and party like i was in me 20s but god my poor old body the next day nos it Used to take me a day to recover a night out it now takes me 3/4 days :shock:
But one thing i have noticed sex is far better now sex drive higher and so mush enjoyable
Pity a mans sex drive drops in thier 40s lol unlike thier 20s when it was none stop lol
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