A very good friend of mine is dying from pancreatic cancer. He was initially diagnosed in December 2006, he had an operation to remove a part of his pancreas etc in January 2007 followed by a course of chemotherapy.
The cancer then ”returned” around the end of last year and he was offered another and more intense course of chemotherapy. He was also told that the cancer was NOT curable and the course MAY only give him a few more weeks on top of those that he has anyway. However, he knows that would go through a lot of suffering from the chemotherapy and that this would almost certainly have a bad effect on his remaining time with his family.
On Monday this week he declined to start the chemotherapy course and has accepted that he now has only a limited time left to him. He will simply opt for palliative care towards the end.
He is only 52 and will leave behing him a wife and 11 year old daughter as well as several brothers & sisters – all of whom are utterly devastated.
He is an incredibly brave person and seems to have reconciled himself to the certainty of his death with a calmness that quite frankly amazes me. All he wants to do now is to enjoy the very limited remaining time he has left to him with his family & friends. To look at him right now you’d never know that he was dying …. I guess that as the cancer spreads it will become more and more obvious to everybody.