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Some people believe (not me) that unmarried or single parents make bad parents? What is your view on this?
Do you believe that parents can be good parents dispite them not being married?
Do you think that single mothers/fathers make terrible parents as there is not two role models to look up to?
Do you think that having a baby out of wedlock is wrong, immoral and will affect the child’s future and behaviour?
Personally I think good parents can be either married, unmarried, single, divorced or even gay. It is the skills that you have within that make you a good parent not what society choses to believe or judge you on. If your child is happy, loved and looked after should it really matter if your parents are what society might consider ‘wrong’ ie unmarried parents or single parents etc…
Being married or not makes no odds on your parenting skills, or lack of.
@Rainny* wrote:
bad parenting naturally comes from people who are either single parents, teenage mums, unmarried parents and gays.
Children need role models and they need standards setting in what better way could this be achieved other than be an offspring of a decent married couple.
Are you for real!!!!!!!! :lol: :lol: :lol:
You are joking of course, please tell me your joking :lol:
Shouldn’t make no difference if your a single parent or not it doesn’t stop you from teaching the kids right from wrong. When i see the men some women are living with i think it would be better if the woman was on her own. Sometimes i think the women feel guilty that there isn’t a father around so they over compensate by spoiling their children and let them have what ever they want , result they end up growing up like spoilt brats.
I do think a young boy or girl needs some influence from the same sex but all the crime in this country cant be blamed on all the boys with no dads !
i also think some parents should stop using the children as tools to get back at ex partners and put the children first.
Maybe men should get more access to their sons, that might help a bit.@Rainny* wrote:
@cas wrote:
@Rainny* wrote:
bad parenting naturally comes from people who are either single parents, teenage mums, unmarried parents and gays.
Children need role models and they need standards setting in what better way could this be achieved other than be an offspring of a decent married couple.
Are you for real!!!!!!!! :lol: :lol: :lol:
You are joking of course, please tell me your joking :lol:
Sorry, but I am deadly serious! Single parents are more than likely single mothers, who are on benefits and crack and spend all the income support on themselves and rather than on their children. They all live on council estates with no future and a lack of parenting skills.
Gay people make bad parents due to the fact that the child will probably turn out as ‘gay’ as them. This is wrong and immoral.
Unmarried parents have no standards no morals, and they are not very good role models due to the fact they do not set a good example to their child by not being married. A child born out of wedlock faces a grim future and will follow in their parents footsteps by making the same mistakes.
Having now seen and read some of the other posts you put on here. Had I known in the first place that you talk such shyte, I would never have bothered to ask the question :roll:@chickenman wrote:
Shouldn’t make no difference if your a single parent or not it doesn’t stop you from teaching the kids right from wrong. When i see the men some women are living with i think it would be better if the woman was on her own. Sometimes i think the women feel guilty that there isn’t a father around so they over compensate by spoiling their children and let them have what ever they want , result they end up growing up like spoilt brats.
I do think a young boy or girl needs some influence from the same sex but all the crime in this country cant be blamed on all the boys with no dads !
i also think some parents should stop using the children as tools to get back at ex partners and put the children first.
Maybe men should get more access to their sons, that might help a bit.
In a whole lot of cases it doesn’t make any difference CM. Single parents, whether they’re men or women! have gotten a bad name due to programmes like the Jeremy Kyle show.I was a single parent myself, my son is 19 now, he’s no angel, what 19 yr old is, he’s streetwise, he has to be where we live. He’s currently doing a training course which will then lead on to a fairly decent job. He’s not done too bad considering it was mostly only his mum brought him up.
There are,,,,,,far too many women, although I don’t doubt that there are men who do it too, use the children as weapons, they’re not weapons, they’re children, and they don’t deserve to be used as pawns by one parent to ‘get at’ the other parent. People who behave in this way will ultimately pay the price, in later years. There are of course some cases where a father or even a mother, shouldn’t have access to the children, in cases of abuse, neglect, where it’s that serious.
I flatly refused to go down that road, fell out with some members of my own family because of it too. I wouldn’t go to court to demand maintenance, or access. I’d said that he could see and speak to our son anytime he wanted to, if he didn’t contribute, then that was for his concience to deal with, not mine. Mike, as I said, didn’t turn out that bad. As for this Rainny person,,,,,,,,well it sounds like someone who doesn’t have kids, and wouldn’t know the first thing about how hard it is to bring up a child on your own. Not on benefits, but on pure hard work and sacrifice!!!
@Rainny* wrote:
I’m entitled to my opinion Cas, whether you like it or not. I do not have to agree with you, and it does not make me ‘wrong’ just because we have different views.
Get over it.
Iv’e nothing to get overI didn’t say you weren’t entitled to your opinion. Your not though, entitled to put every single parent into the same category, well not until you’ve walked a mile in their shoes anyway. You can’t have an opinion, on something you know nothing about.
^^^^ I put that the wrong way really………Yes your entitled to your an opinion, whether you know anything about it or not. Your not though, entitled to tar every single parent with the same brush, that really isn’t something you know anything about, thats clear :evil:
Well said Cas.
Even though Rainny is entitled her opinion, it still stinks as does her attitude towards this topic. It clear she knows nothing or at least very little about bringing up children.
@cas wrote:
@chickenman wrote:
Shouldn’t make no difference if your a single parent or not it doesn’t stop you from teaching the kids right from wrong. When i see the men some women are living with i think it would be better if the woman was on her own. Sometimes i think the women feel guilty that there isn’t a father around so they over compensate by spoiling their children and let them have what ever they want , result they end up growing up like spoilt brats.
I do think a young boy or girl needs some influence from the same sex but all the crime in this country cant be blamed on all the boys with no dads !
i also think some parents should stop using the children as tools to get back at ex partners and put the children first.
Maybe men should get more access to their sons, that might help a bit.
In a whole lot of cases it doesn’t make any difference CM. Single parents, whether they’re men or women! have gotten a bad name due to programmes like the Jeremy Kyle show.I was a single parent myself, my son is 19 now, he’s no angel, what 19 yr old is, he’s streetwise, he has to be where we live. He’s currently doing a training course which will then lead on to a fairly decent job. He’s not done too bad considering it was mostly only his mum brought him up.
There are,,,,,,far too many women, although I don’t doubt that there are men who do it too, use the children as weapons, they’re not weapons, they’re children, and they don’t deserve to be used as pawns by one parent to ‘get at’ the other parent. People who behave in this way will ultimately pay the price, in later years. There are of course some cases where a father or even a mother, shouldn’t have access to the children, in cases of abuse, neglect, where it’s that serious.
I flatly refused to go down that road, fell out with some members of my own family because of it too. I wouldn’t go to court to demand maintenance, or access. I’d said that he could see and speak to our son anytime he wanted to, if he didn’t contribute, then that was for his concience to deal with, not mine. Mike, as I said, didn’t turn out that bad. As for this Rainny person,,,,,,,,well it sounds like someone who doesn’t have kids, and wouldn’t know the first thing about how hard it is to bring up a child on your own. Not on benefits, but on pure hard work and sacrifice!!!
The Jeremy Kyle show does tend do create a sterotype of ‘bad singles mums’ that tend to sleep around and never know who the father/s of their children are. This is the impression that some people have of single mothers, which of course is completely untrue.
I really do not see why a single mother or a single father for that matter can not be a good parent, even if they are on benefits. Of course money is important when raising a child but so is love and a stable home. It is unfair that people like Rainny class single parents especially single mothers as somebody that is unable to provide this.
I’m thinking maybe the Jeremy Kyle show should maybe have some different people as guests instead of creating its predictable sterotype that is harming the characters of decent single parents in the UK, that want nothing more than to bring up their child in the right way without any grief.
If watching Jeremy Kyle does not make you feel good about yourself and thank the lord that your NOT like those on there then you do “have issues” 8) :wink:
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