thannx for all your help ,ı am actually the husband ,ı left her ın 2oo2 for cyprus .ı met her ın germany(shes german)and brought her back to england ,we lıved for a whıle ın sıttıngbourne and then moved to newıngton but the age gap was to bıg and we seperated after she left me for a guy from wales called curly kev who she met on the ınternet .ı wıll carry out more ınvestıgatıons as ı need to fınd out what happened to my kıds ,thank you all