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:D/ I really don’t have anyone to talk to abou this. I’ve been living with a guy for three years. He talked about marriage before I moved in. But at the time I wasn’t divorced yet. Now that we have been together for three years there is no talk of it. I’ve asked him if he thinks we will get married and his answer was “I guess”. I do love him but am I wasting my time? He tells me he loves me alot but doesn’t ever show it. He never holds my hand at home or in public. Never puts his arm around me. He is a nice guy and would do anything for anyone. I just don’t know if I should invest more time in this relationship. I am in my mid forties and I don’t want to be single the rest of my life. Help!!!
Hi sky, why dont you try talking to him about how you feel?
I’ve tried talking to him but he just won’t open up and talk to me. Before we started living together he was very open about his feelings, we talked alot. I’ve asked him what happened and he says he doesn’t know. He doesn’t think that anything is different. It’s killing me inside, I need answers and he just won’t say anything.
go with your gut instinct… much as it might hurt its usually gives you the right answers. Hope all works out for you x
try seein a doctor ya mad cow u need one after all your askin ppl in a world wide site on the net
bit harsh king, i think this site should be used more for advice, its all good to help people, and maybe somtimes we hav’nt got folk to talk to, i myself could’nt sit in front of a doctor and tell him about my love life face to face
but anyway, personal experiance was i was recently involved in a relationship like this, she would’nt hold me, kiss me.. sex was a no goer… i did’nt feel loved, so i left her… i have regretted leaving her since, but i got to come to terms with the fact, it would never have worked, if you the sort of person who needs to feel love.. and affection, then i say, talk to him and say to him, if you not getting it then you have no choice except to look elsewhere for it
it will be hard.. the hardest thing you would ever do, and take you a long time to move on
but rather that then be in a relationship with no love being given back?
three years, but I was always taught real love never dies, Us guys can be real jerks at time, but if there`s lack of affection after just three years well maybe its time to go.
Some day we will all hopefully grow old and grey and well if the guy cant even walk down the street and hold your hand and smile at the same time because he cant help but show how happy you make him feel, well perhaps it isnt worth it
What ever you decide put up a good fight first so you can at least know you tried if it dosent work out.did you know that people normally choose cartoon caractors that relate to themselves. I like yours, its a sad lookin, childish, big headed little git wearing black (aint you got any colour in your life) :P :P :P :twisted:
If your having doubts after such a short time, is it really worth while pursuing this relationship. Relationships are a partnership and require input and work from all parties concerned. Divorce is not everything, It took me 9 years to get mine but my partner and I stayed together and are stiil together after 13 years. marraige is on the cards but money is the problem and we have both talked about this and are prepared to wait.
If he is not prepared to sit down and discuss what ever it is that is affecting your relationship then your wasting your time. He may be a nice guy but thats not what a relationship is based upon.
Good luck
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