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28 October, 2007 at 1:04 pm #8394
Being the curious sort of soul that I am I thought I would post this to see what sort of a variety of views and responses would get posted
I did some electrical work for a woman who phoned in response to a regular advertisement, so its not someone I know or have ever met before as that (I think) is quite relevant
Now the job itself was maybe a one and a half to two hour job, but while working we were chatting. Now I’m generally a fairly chatty sort anyway, but, and this might sound a bit silly, the chat was something else
I cant really describe it, but I suppose some people would describe it as us “clicking”, we talked about anything and everything, bouncing from one topic to another encompassing some very personal topics, theoretical ones, some stuff most people just wouldnt tell a complete stranger (good and bad) and even covering some areas linked to sex, sexuality and even our own sex lives
Think is, I know it was just conversation, so theres no point anyone pointing out how dumb it is to claim a conversation was “amazing” lol, but there was “something” about it
Anyway, about 5-6 hours after starting the hour and a half job, a cup of tea and several glasses of wine later I left, but on the way home I was actually thinking how sad it would be to not talk to this woman again
And being honest OMG was she absolutely gorgeous too lol, so I cant claim my mind never ventured near the gutter either, but as much as I hate to admit it, I would actually choose an night of talking to this woman over a weekend shagging her brains out if it was a choice of one OR the other, although obviously a year spent alternating between the two would be the more preferred choice haha
Anyway, the question(s)
Considering this meeting was in a purely professional capacity I’d be interested to see what peoples slants on it would be re whether it would be a good idea at all to make contact with this woman now the job is finished both from a womans positition if they did and didnt “click” with the person, and from a male perspective on methodology
And if so, what sort of approach would people think is a reasonable way to take a stab at it considering the circumstances? Again, what types of approach would be welcomed or would fall flat from the female perspective, and what would seem like a good way to progress to the men
Just to avoid some of the obvious stuff, I obviously already have both of her numbers due to doing the job, and left her both of mine incase there was any problem with the work which I would always do anyway
(oh yeah, just as a footnote to avoid any confuddlication or disgrumpygruntling, I have pretty much decided what I’m going to do, so this isnt really asking for advice, merely opinions, although I do obviously reserve the right to nick any suggestions that I hadnt thought of that are better than what I came up with (as you do) lol)
28 October, 2007 at 1:35 pm #292257Well you sound pretty interested in this person, and knowing people you are most likely both in the same boat.
You are wondering about her, and if you had a glass of wine etc together she must of thought you was alright,(or maybe a p!ss head on the job and thought i’ll be nice so i don’t have an electrical fire and my house burn down lol) and i would imagine giving you a thought or 7 also.Now most people seem to think, well they have got my number they can call me if they was interested, but forget the other person is probly thinking the same thing and nothing happens cos both people think the other person can’t of been interested or they would of called.
The dog that i am, i would make an excuse to go round there, you was in the area and you think you may of left a tool there and did she find anything after you left, if that tactic dont get you in the door try, well you know we had a few drinks the other day do you mind if i take a quick look to make sure everything is in order (although that might make you sound a cowboy and paranoid you did a sh!t job in the first place lol).
I think from her first reaction when she opens the door and the look on her face will tell you if it was worth going back and if there is anything worth pursuing.
And if you think there might be something there, and she didnt find the tool you left :twisted: , say you know we had a lovely chin wag the other day, its nice to meet someone like that blah blah fancy going out for a drink sometime, and hey presto!All the best humpings
Agony Uncle Throbby.
28 October, 2007 at 1:57 pm #292258sounds like a plan throbby… lifes to short, so go for it. Alternatively give her a call. Whats the worst she could say…? Ps… might be worth checking the address wasnt Mrs first… although in this day n age, that dont count for much.
Doubt she’d have given you the wine and chatted for so long if she wasnt slightly interested.
Good luck!
28 October, 2007 at 2:01 pm #292259sounds like she enjoyed your company as much as you enjoyed hers otherwise she wouldnt have spent so much time chatting with you and drinking wine.
Although shes got your number, she’s probably waiting for you to phone her (cos most women like to be persued and prefer men to make the first move lol)
You should give her a call and ask her out for a drink. If she turns you down (which i doubt she will) it wont be as embarassing as asking her face to face, and you wont have to see her again.
Go for it! and let us know how you get on :lol: :wink:
28 October, 2007 at 5:28 pm #292260i first met y hubby when i employed him as a part time dj on a weekend. 3 years later i bumped into him in another pub and he was a free agent as was i. we had a laugh nd a joke while he worked in my pub and i never forgot what a loveley man he was, it wasnt a sex thinhg at all, but hey from that nite to this weve never been apart. if you got th spark follow yer heart and go for it. im no expert on love matters but your post says it all to me pet, dont think twice. and ps dont forget to give us an update [not the details of cours] :wink: :wink: :wink:
28 October, 2007 at 7:04 pm #292261Chances are ubermik, that she is riddled with STD’s or worse and hetes all men. She is just looking for a sucker to get even with.
Stay well clear and save yourself a trip to the Peter & Paul Clinic and some painful injections.
28 October, 2007 at 7:12 pm #292262Well to be honest, if it was pursued along the lines where an STD was a likely risk then considering how utterly scrumptious she is as long as I could have one of those rollercoaster type photos to prove you were “there” I’d take that chance lol
As for the man hating, thats what gags were invented for lol, nobody REALLY gets turned on by them, theyre really just to stop the inane chatter putting you off yer stroke :)
28 October, 2007 at 7:25 pm #292263I do hope you didn’t drink and drive :shock:
28 October, 2007 at 7:26 pm #292264Thank god for the text to voice programs !!!!!
Anyway…..
You’re in a world of sh1t.
First she knows how to contact you and where you live.
If you do make a move on her and she don’t like it, you end up in court, and label has sex pest.
But if she is happy to see you again, I would say ring her up and have a chat on the phone first, meet somewhere neural and public, like a coffee shop.
Make sure she not a nuttier or her hubbys “inside” for GBH.
You must have the same credit checking service has I do, so put her thru it and see what comes out.
I have seen this happen a few times over the last few years, its always ends up has trouble.
She mite be ok, but you never know.
Keep your business and personal life separated
28 October, 2007 at 7:37 pm #292265Get in there, nail the back end out of it, move on to the next job :P
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