IVF =ovarian cancer plz read if u no sum1 having IVF

@sweetasbaileez wrote:

i know this is a sad thread to add, but i feel so strongly about this that i thought a good way of getting this in the public eye is by posting it on jc.
my friend was diagnosed with ovarian cancer two weeks before christmas, she is 39 yrs old and will soon leave 2 great kids motherless ( aged 17 and 8 yrs) and a loving husband alone to pick up the pieces .what scares me is that she had IVF treatment for them, it has now come to light that for many years the medical boards of our country have known that IVF is a major contributory fact to ovarian cancer. did they tell my friend of this risk ?? NO. WHY??? it all boils down to money, each treatment costs in excess of 2-3 thousand pounds, for every attempt you or someone you might know, increases their chances of ovarian cancer by another 15%. my friends cancer was not genetic, although it can sometimes be the case, she doesn’t smoke, drink and has never slept around. she has been with her husband since she was 20 yrs old.now she has a matter of weeks to live and for the sum of 9 grand, she has been given this awful illness. im posting this as i want you to warn ppl of the dangers in IVF, the dangers that the medical profession will keep quiet about for as long as they possibly can. plz warn whoever has the treatment.. if it saves one person going through what my friends family and friends are, then its worth it to me .
thank you for taking the time to read this, and once again, sorry for the sadness xx
be lucky live long lives and most of all count your blessings xxxx

Awwwww chick i do feel for you and your friends family like you said they will pick up the pieces. I havent known anyone have IVF and i havent heard of the risks but even if they came to light some peoples need for a baby is probably worth the risk. I know of my friends aunty and uncle she was pregnant only just mind and she got cancer. They said abort the baby we will start treatment early and get rid of it its early stages. She concieved naturally. She said no way would she “kill” her baby she would wait. He was born healthy and his mother died 2 months later, some women will just risk anything for the desire need want yern for a baby. As for your friend not knowing then i really feel for her as she wont enjoy her kids grow up. My thoughts are with you x

@sweetasbaileez wrote:

ive been thinking about what you wrote becky and i truly believe that my friend would have tried alternative methods of getting pregnant, if it had come to it id have had one for her, ( atleast i hope i would have). i know for a fact that her husband would never have agreed to the IVF if he had known the risk, and i doubt my friend would have either. whats the point of having children to then die on them and not see them grow up ?? isnt that pretty selfish ?? without wanting to sound cruel and unfair, isnt it wrong to want a baby for yourself, then to go and die and leave the child motherless ?? im aware that there are plenty of kids out there with only one parent, but i guarantee you that in 99% of the cases they wish they had two ! for whatever reasons people make their decisions concerning IVF, the idea of this thread to is raise awareness, to give a bit more information, the ones the doctors wont give. i have a great website for info if needed by anyone. and if you are trying for a baby out there….plz atleast look at newer treatments, there are hundreds out there, but the GMC wont tell you as it costs too much ..xxx

I do think to “know” you will die and leave a child motherless is selfish on the child and parent left behind to cope with a baby and a loss. Just some women would risk it. The feeling of desperation for a child is unexplainable and its not in the head its in your heart a feeling an ache and until its fulfilled you dont feel complete but i do agree probably 50% of women wouldnt have gone through with it knowing the risks maybe.