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The government are currently discussion the idea that women who meet men on the internet should be allowed to ‘vet’ the man to see if he has a criminal or violent past before embarking on a relationship with the person.
How do you feel about this?
As a woman would you take this up and go through with the checks if you were internet dating?
As a man how would you feel about being scrutinised?It brings about the question of how viable this is? Surely not all men who have been abusive to partners (in whatever form of abuse) have not necessarily got criminal records and therefore is this excerise fruitless?
Why should men not be allowed to check out a womans criminal past? Many cases of domestic abuse are actually where the woman abuses the man, it is just that they go unmentioned more due to male pride.
How does this all sit with you and would it work?
It won’t work. How do you get info on someone if they dont want to give it. Surely the police cannot just give your details cause someone say’s they might be meeting you.
With fake names and floating IP’s it just wont work. Its most likely another halfarsed idea to keep them busy and confuse the public so the bigger issues are forgotten about.
Just like scheme of english parents being tested to see if their a peado, this was meant to be brought in last year!!!.I agree Lucy, has any female ever met a man on the net who was truthful? Maybe in the longer term they might have to fess up to who they really are….. by that time it might be too late, you would have met them and who knows what might have happened to you.
Keep in mind Claudia Lawrence the woman who went missing in York, its never been established what happened to her but the police suspect her disappearance is linked to the Internet and chat rooms. I dont think the net is a good vehicle for meeting people in real life, there are a few exceptions I know… but very few and its risky in my opinion.
It’s one of those hare-brained ideas that probably sounded great in a brainstorming session but is nigh on impossible to implement. Even if it were possible to implement, the majority of domestic abuse goes unreported so its usefulness is limited.
It’s not just males that need vetting surely?
If they bring in ‘vetting’, then it should work both ways. While women are less likely to be physical or sexual abusers than men, there have been several cases of ‘financial abuse’ by women, where men have been conned out of their savings.
@lucylocket wrote:
@tinks wrote:
It’s not just males that need vetting surely?
well said tinks!
Think I said that too in my opening prose….
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