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Serious question here
OK, I have a general rule in my life and it has always served me well, Neither a borrower nor a lender be.
My hypothetical question for you all is this. If you were approached at JC by a person you had come to know reasonably well, (maybe you had met them a couple of times) and they asked you for money how would you deal with it? Even worse what if that person inferred they would make life difficult for you if you didnt comply? An example could be telling a loved one you had met them.
A dilemma dont you think?
So how would you deal with it?
Teapot :?
Of course its hypothetical Mrs T :wink:
Id call their bluff most people like that are cowards and full of the brown stuff.
@yourchoice wrote:
Of course its hypothetical Mrs T :wink:
Id call their bluff most people like that are cowards and full of the brown stuff.
lol tis hypothetical
Teapot
definetly call their bluff.. as they are cowards. Had a similar thing happen to myself, many years ago. Not on jc though. Got talking to a fella, I thought it was all innocent but he fell in love with me !! Got nasty when i refusd to go live with him. He read between lines that were not even there, and “read” that i longed to be with him,and would leave my husband and kids !! asked me for a 1000 quid to cover his “embarrassment”.. Turns out he did it to a lot of married women. did I give him the 1000?? did i hell ! but it was scary at the time.
It has happened here on jc, people have loaned money (without the threats I believe) and not had it back, resulting in fallout in the room.
My take on it is the same as in real life.
If it was someone I’d got to know pretty well and they simply asked for a loan or a helping hand and I felt it was genuine, then assuming I had the money myself I’d help out. However, I’ve always taken the view when lending to not expect to get it back and if I do then it’s a bonus. Not that I distrust people to repay it, but sometimes people find their situation doesn’t improve and they’re unable to pay it back. If I don’t expect it back then there’s nothing to fall out over.That said, if someone was making threats about what they’d do if I didn’t give them the money, well that’s blackmail plain and simple, and I don’t respond well to blackmail in any form, financial or emotional. In this case I’d tell them to stuff it where the sun doesn’t shine…or words to that effect! :D
Laugh, and then say, ‘No chance!’
:lol: Mrs Teapot, you are a tinker lol
Being in a relationship, i would hope that whoever a person chose to meet , their partner would be fully aware. If they wern’t, then it is plainly asking for trouble.
I’ll settle for half then, just keep it quiet. :wink:
@gazlan wrote:
:lol: Mrs Teapot, you are a tinker lol
Being in a relationship, i would hope that whoever a person chose to meet , their partner would be fully aware. If they wern’t, then it is plainly asking for trouble.
I’ll settle for half then, just keep it quiet. :wink:
Gaz I did say hypothetical!
Teapot
@mrs_teapot wrote:
@yourchoice wrote:
Of course its hypothetical Mrs T :wink:
Id call their bluff most people like that are cowards and full of the brown stuff.
lol tis hypothetical
Teapot
i told you to be wary mrs t :wink:
1995 I was a single parent with two childen under the age of 7 on low income and religiously saving each week tryin to make a bit of financial security for us. At the time my good friend was desperate to have her front room decorated so I offered to lend her the £250 she needed. When it came to paying the money back when she had been paid I heard her saying………” oh well, beans on toast every day for dinner this week”….which I chose to ignore as she actually had more money than me coming in each pay day………Eventually I was paid all the money back and a few years later I discovered that the decorators had actually charged her £140 for the decorating and the rest she had used to have some retail therapy in the high street……….Not only was I shocked at this but quite upset as I had always had a very regard for her and thought of her as a very dear friend………at the end of the day she was more than happy to take my money and abuse my trust and she also was quite happy to compromise our friendship with her greed……..
I now am ……..not a lender nor a borrower be person.
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