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It seems that whenever you started chatting, whether it was a year ago, 4 years ago, 6 years ago, you will always say “chat was so much nicer before, what’s happened to the banter? We used to have fun didn’t we?”
Nowadays when I go into chat, 9 times out of 10 there will be a row or abuse going on, often between regular chatters. It sometimes seems that some people are only there to have a go at someone else, often picking on the same person over and over again with the same “argument”. It’s like watching a child picking a scab, they know they’re opening old wounds, that it’s gonna hurt but they do it anyway.
Don’t get me wrong, there are some lovely chatters, and I don’t expect it to be nicey nicey all of the time (my glasses are only slightly rose tinted), but why do it?
Why come into a chatroom just to be nasty as some chatters seem to? Do you do that in real life? Would you just walk into your local bar, shop, whatever and start being nasty to people?
Why, if you don’t like someone or they’ve offended you in some way, don’t you just ignore them? Isn’t that what you would do in real life?
Why make threats even if, as some people say, they are just words on a screen? Would you go around threatening people in real life?
Would you behave the same in real life as you do in jc? If not, then why do it here?
I’m not having a go at anyone, I just don’t get it, and it saddens me to see nice friendly chatters being driven away by people who condemn the numpties without realising that sometimes they’re a numpty themselves. :-k
Oh and please don’t say it’s banter, most of us can tell the difference between banter and abuse.
I hear what you are saying jen .. although i will say, that more times than not recently , the room has been really nice !
As for some people picking at old scabs etc.. I in the past have been guilty of that, and try not to do it now , as it isnt good for all the other chatters in the room to watch is it? But then , on saying that ……. there is an iggy button . ( Contradicting myself there arent i tut ) :wink: At the end of the day, if everyone got on all would be well , but we dont live in a pefect world.
I would actually say , there is more bi tching and back biting going on ,on the boards tbh.
AND.. before i get shot down with my last comment .. I, just like some others here , will not sit and watch Nasty things being said about me on here .. after all , i wouldnt put up with it real life ….. so why should i here ?
And one more thing- God , i’m on a roll now :lol: I have to say how cosy’s posts , im my opinion anyway , have lightened up the boards. Which is nice to see.
@jen_jen wrote:
It seems that whenever you started chatting, whether it was a year ago, 4 years ago, 6 years ago, you will always say “chat was so much nicer before, what’s happened to the banter? We used to have fun didn’t we?”
Nowadays when I go into chat, 9 times out of 10 there will be a row or abuse going on, often between regular chatters. It sometimes seems that some people are only there to have a go at someone else, often picking on the same person over and over again with the same “argument”. It’s like watching a child picking a scab, they know they’re opening old wounds, that it’s gonna hurt but they do it anyway.
Don’t get me wrong, there are some lovely chatters, and I don’t expect it to be nicey nicey all of the time (my glasses are only slightly rose tinted), but why do it?
Why come into a chatroom just to be nasty as some chatters seem to? Do you do that in real life? Would you just walk into your local bar, shop, whatever and start being nasty to people?
Why, if you don’t like someone or they’ve offended you in some way, don’t you just ignore them? Isn’t that what you would do in real life?
Why make threats even if, as some people say, they are just words on a screen? Would you go around threatening people in real life?
Would you behave the same in real life as you do in jc? If not, then why do it here?
I’m not having a go at anyone, I just don’t get it, and it saddens me to see nice friendly chatters being driven away by people who condemn the numpties without realising that sometimes they’re a numpty themselves. :-k
Gosh Jen I dont mean to offend you here but I find this post incredulous… pot and kettle spring to mind here… sorry only telling it like it is. I try not to get involved in spats… I will shut up now
Teapot
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I’m not nasty in the chatroom or anywhere else, and I do ignore those very few people that I don’t like, and I don’t believe I have ever made a threat.Are you confusing me with someone else Mrs Teapot? :?
i have to agree jen, the chat of old like many things in this ever changing modern world just doesnt seem to be the same as it once was, not all the time i might add, sometimes it is nice in chat, the days from light hearted banter to serious discussions and debates (well controlled adults in the main having these ) seem to have gone and been replaced with old and continuing spats some that have been going on for months and years to pathetic childish scrolling from people with an IQ of 2 who have nothing of any more significance to offer, to gossip assumptions spread like fire among many. Don’t get me wrong we always had spats and arguements but they happened were done and dusted and move on.
It seems that the lack of respect for other human beings, a lack of discipline among our children and each other just seems to be spreading from the world into our chat rooms… and the main one for me … we have always had people that like to push the boundaries MiBs springs to mind for me although i got on with him well, he was villified often and i think he enjoyed this role to a degree but it was accepted laughed at mainly ignored none of this dramatic nonsense we get now. When did we learn to focus so much on the negative in people rather than embracing the positives and shutting out the bad.I have to agree most of the time in there its arguing when theres no need for it and its the usual suspects but when theres no arguin its a gd laff :)
I don`t mind arguments or debate, I actually get along with most ppl (possibly cos i have no clue who`s who :lol: ) but.. scrolling and personal insults, threats etc are just stupid.
I like locking horns, and think it can be done without malice, and when its done well it can be great fun, one thought though we all know the numpties do it for effect so why give them any time at all?
Thin, you`re sharp on here, never had the honour of chatting
Cosy, I see something different to most then
Jen, who are u in there?
Gaz, nah u can`t be in there!
anc…. u good at quizzes i beleive
I popped in f3 earlier today saw a lot of old names, was good xMight even return :)
@nemesis wrote:
I don`t mind arguments or debate, I actually get along with most ppl (possibly cos i have no clue who`s who :lol: ) but.. scrolling and personal insults, threats etc are just stupid.
I like locking horns, and think it can be done without malice, and when its done well it can be great fun, one thought though we all know the numpties do it for effect so why give them any time at all?
Thin, you`re sharp on here, never had the honour of chatting
Cosy, I see something different to most then
Jen, who are u in there?
Gaz, nah u can`t be in there!
anc…. u good at quizzes i beleive
I popped in f3 earlier today saw a lot of old name
I thins, was good xMight even return :)
I think you summed it up nemesis… the older members here like yourself treat the boards and chat like a private club and are unwittingly unwelcoming to new people hence your post
teapot
The last thing I would ever want is to make anyone feel unwelcome, or left out, hell, I`m still a newbie and I`ve been here nearly two years.
What I meant was I often don`t connect ppl from boards to chat and vice versa.. my thuhgts on thin et al were just a few that came to mind, you teapot… I like u, u clever and see what goes on :)
I still think of myself as an outsider tbh :)
anyway can I call ya tea now? xx
good point tho, how welcoming is it in chat and on here?
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