-
Posts
-
I thought about this, should i share or not?
I have been diagnosed with severe depression. I had post natal depression that wasnt diagnosed until my daughter was 7, beat that, moved on. My dad died in jan, id not seen him for years, i split with my husband in may and tbh i nearly fell apart.
Im on anti depressants, arranging CBT, surrounding myself with good people, reconnecting with my mum, getting on well with my ex, my daughter is doing great and i now have the love of a truly good man.
Ive been signed off work, i struggle pretty much daily even just to stay awake, eat and shower. Its tough.
Through all this though, ive discovered im worth something, that i matter and you know what? Im starting to love me.
Not everyone that has depression is a sad case.
6 members liked this post.
Ahh..I applaud your honesty and coming forward to recognize that you were and moving forward..not all have depression.
I may be kicked hard here..but I am no Doctor..I have spent half of my life work in the legal system..other half in mental health, abuse of all nature, and disability. I have been humble to work in such fields the time I have which have been lengthy.
Many of us do get depressed. I too have been there. I am sure if you sought professional help they said..need to get to root and cause..only way to heal, resolve and move forward..not easy as small baby steps as if try all at once you become too overwhelmed..
I am glad what ever route you took to put those 2 feet in front of you..you had the strength and will to move on for you, your child and open new doors of opportunity..
If I told you how many times as a crisis worker I dealt with those wishing to end their life due to low self esteem, loss, relationships, hardships financial issues you be truly amazed.. not easy for the worker to filter thru if at immediate risk and harm, or needing to vent. This skill not an easy one. I go home at times feeling bad for those know, or just speak to on phone. Emotionally draining for the worker as well..
So happy for you..be positive..xx
I thought about this, should i share or not?
I have been diagnosed with severe depression. I had post natal depression that wasnt diagnosed until my daughter was 7, beat that, moved on. My dad died in jan, id not seen him for years, i split with my husband in may and tbh i nearly fell apart.
Im on anti depressants, arranging CBT, surrounding myself with good people, reconnecting with my mum, getting on well with my ex, my daughter is doing great and i now have the love of a truly good man.
Ive been signed off work, i struggle pretty much daily even just to stay awake, eat and shower. Its tough.
Through all this though, ive discovered im worth something, that i matter and you know what? Im starting to love me.
Not everyone that has depression is a sad case.
No one is a sad case.I have fought depression for thirty od years.I too after my last chiled had depression,that let run on for three years.Iv been on meds for about thirty years.I am not sad because,i battle it evry day.Evry one i know who has depression,battles it evry day.As i get older the depression burns itself out a little.I dont suffer half the anxiety,that i did.Im not seven stone.running around withought thinking of eating.I dont worry so much.Before the menopuase i went stone mad with drinking and after.Im loving my age now,its the best i have felt for years.You sound like you have got to the point where your coping.Well done to you.I like to hear how the littl one is doing,Glad shes doing well.I am so glad you have found someone who is making you happy.You do matter and your very important always remember that.Better times ahead of you Nems.x
4 members liked this post.
”If I told you how many times as a crisis worker I dealt with those wishing to end their life due to low self esteem, loss, relationships, hardships financial issues you be truly amazed.”
No. I wouldn’t be amazed at all, I doubt many of us would, after all none of us are 21, we’ve all had plenty of life experiences by now.
Nem, very brave of you to open up on here, especially knowing how some people can behave on these boards and how they can punish you, should you piss them off over something trivial in the future…..
It’s great to hear a positive post even if the title thread is ‘Depression’, lolol ! I think people bandy the word around far too willy nilly. ” Ohhhhh I’m depressed ….. ” No. You aren’t, your just pissed off, there’s a massive difference. I don’t think I’ve ever had it, there have been periods of my life that have been very tuff and very sad, but that, I believe, is different to clinical depression. I do have a good friend who suffers from it, and she lives with it daily, a happy, out going person it would seem, but constantly battling inner demons of low self worth, doubt and anxiety. As you say it’s a daily battle, some days are much easier than others, recognising you have an issue and accepting help is a massive step, and not listening to other friends who think they are experts is another good thing !!
Glad you are feeling stronger and coping, well done you girly !! Ditto Jamie xxx
-
This reply was modified 5 years, 12 months ago by
mooosey88.
4 members liked this post.
Well Mooosey to be honest as well I too know several who deal with it daily as well. But never realized the true impact of depression that reach all, at any age, and the many who coping skills are at a loss with that feeling, in which anxiety triggers allowing no room to listen or get help. Refusal. This sadly includes the very young truly not lived yet or know the world or lived as long as we have.
They say children are very observant at early ages, resilient, can cope.. this what I am amazed most at. Those are the many I should have pointed out..I am amazed at..
I do agree we all have some form of depression that knock on our door in journeys of life. Some can manage and resolve it over period of time. There are others who can’t release it, draws them low..even in chemical hormone imbalances situations. Out of there control as not aware.
So again I am happy that this is a good thing..happy thing to read about for another in this area.. I hope others too will use it as an example for life..that all good things can happen, will happen..takes time.. recognizing your personal needs for you we some times forget we too need help..
1 member liked this post.
first of all….. Hugs Nem. very brave post.
I counselled many adults with depression, self loathing, guilt, which stemmed from abuse as either kids, or from an abusive marriage, its true you have to get to the root cause to actually come to terms with it, and some say “why now” well most keep a can of worms deeply hidden, but it only takes one more catastrophe or catalyst to split open that can of worms and you have to deal with it because them worms aint going back in the can!
problem is when you’re trying to be brave and pretend youre not depressed which most depression sufferers do. their serotonin levels get so low that the body forgets how to make it for the rest of your life, and you end up having to take serotonin reuptake drugs forever.
Hope you get your counselling soon Nem, it will help i promise it may not feel like it at first confronting demons youve hidden, but a type of freedom from it quickly follows xxxx sending you hugs x
4 members liked this post.
I hope things improve for you Echo but would question whether depression is a mental illness or a natural state of affairs to a finite existence. Society decrees in what is perceived to be a normal life for the first 15-22 years of life we attend educational establishments normally learning material that has no relevance in the real world unless your course/degree is tailor made to a specific job. Then society demands for the next 45 years we all work in jobs which can be underpaid, mundane whilst paying extortionate prices for piles of bricks and mortar juggling obscene charges/bills in tax /energy companies etc. On top of that we all have to negotiate the daily risks of crime being stabbed/ robbed which have been alluded to on the other thread, responsibilities entailed with children/relatives etc
At the age of 65 or thereabouts society allows us to get off the rat race wheel of work with a persons best years behind them, with using a median average of life expectancy, less than 15 years left before oblivion( unless you are religious) which I’m not. Even then many of these years are likely to be dogged by ill health, suffering and possibly poverty issues as many pensioners are unable to survive on the meagre pensions paid out. The blueprint is hardly conducive to being cheerful is it?
0-16/22 years of age = learning pointless information in a flawed curriculum
22-65 years= rat race of in many cases awful futile job roles in order to be a valuable contributor to society
65 to a likely age of around 80= deteriorating health, mobility issues
80 or when the grim reaper calls= death with everything you were or are at time of death gone forever into oblivion with your corpse either incinerated or left to rot underground eaten by worms
I dont see how anyone being depressed by that set of events is mentally ill, infact I’d say it was a natural reaction to a finite existence with no discernible purpose other than satisfying the whims of each persons own conscious state during the few years we are alive.
1 member liked this post.
have to say its great that so many are posting.Good to see some of my friends posting in here😃Mooosey,Kenty,laine,soph.Great posters and very suportive.
1 member liked this post.
Well Mooosey to be honest as well I too know several who deal with it daily as well. But never realized the true impact of depression that reach all, at any age, and the many who coping skills are at a loss with that feeling, in which anxiety triggers allowing no room to listen or get help. Refusal. This sadly includes the very young truly not lived yet or know the world or lived as long as we have.
They say children are very observant at early ages, resilient, can cope.. this what I am amazed most at. Those are the many I should have pointed out..I am amazed at..
I do agree we all have some form of depression that knock on our door in journeys of life. Some can manage and resolve it over period of time. There are others who can’t release it, draws them low..even in chemical hormone imbalances situations. Out of there control as not aware.
So again I am happy that this is a good thing..happy thing to read about for another in this area.. I hope others too will use it as an example for life..that all good things can happen, will happen..takes time.. recognizing your personal needs for you we some times forget we too need help..
Folk like mizzy you mean Linda?So depressed they kick against the world and its sister and drinks like a fish.Trying anything to fill there head with anything other than what there dealing with.
I agree with what you say linda about you and i,lets not return to old ways.There is hope for us all.
I posted about it, and will continue to (as long as there is interest) because i think too many of us are scared to discuss mental health and its an important issue.
Laine… all my life i have dealt with pain by boxing it up to look at some time in the distant future. I have so much to process, ive survived rape, domestic abuse, bullying, illness, rejection and loss. I survived it by ignoring it. Now its time to face it.
Rude… i love life… we get this one chance to do this, to be feeling, sentinent beings. Either thats a gift from God or just random chance, either way its a miracle in my book. Theres a lot of truth in your post, personally id go build a cabin in a wood somewhere, live off grid. I think we have forgotten how to really live ya know? Make fire, hunt and gather, live life by actually living not stuck behind screens.
Im fully aware that i how i feel right now isnt reality, i know that when i think id be better off not here its not true, its depression. For years i have been put down, told im ugly, that im stupid, childish, needy. Im not, im smart and strong and im not scared to reach out.
Im ready to fight, im ready to face my demons, ready to face myself. I cannot change the past but i can accept it and move forwards.
-
This reply was modified 5 years, 12 months ago by
Get involved in this discussion! Log in or register now to have your say!